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Take care of yourself

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If you have ever been on a plane, you have been subjected to the flight attendant’s spiel about what to do if the cabin loses pressure. They explain that oxygen masks will fall from the ceiling and show you how to put them on. Every time, they remind you that if you are traveling with a child or someone else in need of assistance, you must be sure to put your mask on before you try to help anyone else. The implication is clear. If you don’t take care of yourself, then you won’t be able to care for anyone else. You’ll be lying unconscious in the aisle.

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I feel like…

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If you start to say “I feel like…” you should stop and check yourself – because what is likely to follow is not a feeling but a judgement.
And a judgement statement is actually an expression of mistrust not trust. A judgement statement says “I’m too scared to show you what is really going on inside me. I’ll only feel safe to show you what I’m feeling if you first agree with my assessment of what is wrong with you and then promise never to be like that again.”

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Value & Understand

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Only those who value and understand themselves can value and understand others. Only those who can communicate honestly with themselves can communicate honestly with others

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Vision

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One of the reasons people perish without a vision (Prov 29:18) is that they cannot endure the pain and cost required to achieve a worthwhile purpose.

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Self control

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Self control removes the option of blaming others for our choices.
Self control is what allows us to manage increasing levels of freedom in our life and relationships.

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Correction with Honour

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Honour is also the practice of calling out the best in one another. This can be expressed both in words of praise – “You are amazing!” and in words of connection – “Hey, you are way too awesome to be acting like that! Remember who you are and stop it!”

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Quality of love

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If you want to test the quality of love in a relationship, then you need to ask one another, “Do you feel safe? Do you feel cared for? Do you feel valued and significant? Do you feel protected? Do you feel pursued and known?”

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Unconditional Acceptance

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Unconditional acceptance says, “You are not me and I am not you. You get to be you and I get to be me in this relationship.” This does not mean you have to unconditionally accept one another’s behaviours. Rather it means that you do not control one another.

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Relational Connections

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It’s amazing how much you can strengthen a relational connection and resolve relational problems by simply speaking in one another’s love languages. Each display of love, no matter how seemingly small, is a powerful act of spiritual warfare that removes anxiety from the environment, replaces it with freedom and safety, and invites each person to bring his or her best self forward in the relationship. Never forget that scared people are bound to show you their worst. People who feel loved on the other hand, will usually show their best.

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